Mourning in the digital age–A Farker’s Farewell

Friday, 21 August, 2009

Today I got some sad news.  A friend of mine who I met through, as a TotalFarker, passed away yesterday in an automobile accident.  Obviously someone should mourn the passing of someone they knew and liked.  And I am doing so.

My issue with the whole thing is, how do you mourn someone you really didn’t know/never met physically?  I don’t want to do something…inadequate.  To me, writing this is helping me, by making me think of some of the many hilarious conversations we’ve had.

It also makes me feel a bit selfish, though.

I guess I will just say my piece about Thai, and leave it at that.

Thai Williams, known to me and others as his TotalFark handle Arelas, was someone that I talked with on a daily basis for an entire year’s time.  Now that I think back on it, he helped me feel comfortable at a job I didn’t really enjoy.

He didn’t do anything in particular, but, he was just there to talk to.  And that did help me trudge through.  I remember passing a day making a banner for a fictional Presidential Election in which Thai was named President.


It reads: “Vote Arelas for President in 2008.  The candidate with a vision (and the meds to clear it, eventually!).  I was known as Thai’s vice-president in those days.  It’s a position I will always cherish, since he kindly bestowed it upon me.

Though I wasn’t around in TotalFark for a long while, I still thought of Thai (and all the rest of my friends).  I am saddened, though, that I fell out of contact with him.  I wish his family and friends all the best.

I will miss you, my friend, and I will think of you when I see an alpaca!  Good-bye!